Silda Wall Spitzer

Now that New York Governor Eliot Spitzer has resigned, the pundits are having a field day with the post-mortem. I find the commentary on his wife, Silda Wall Spitzer, fascinating. She looked like a wreck, standing next to her husband, first as he made a public apology and then, two days later, when he resigned. I've read everything from, "how could she stand by him" to "I would have stabbed him with an axe if asked me to support him" to "of course she should show support to him in pubic," (though usually that's a career salvaging move. In this case, it's hard to figure out what to salvage, unless he goes to Hollywood and sells the movie rights).The truth is, nobody can ever see inside other people's marriages. No marriage is transparent, especially not one that involves smart people spanning twenty years. That's a lot of love, a lot of anger, a lot of joy and a lot of grief. She stood there because of all those things. Now leave her alone.